You are not destroyed. You are in repair. And repair is not failure—it's the bravest thing a person can do.

Whatever got destroyed—was it a friendship? Your reputation in a certain group? Your confidence in social situations? Your belief that you could mask well enough to be "normal"? Those things can hurt terribly, but they are not you . You are still here. You are still thinking, feeling, and reaching out for help. That is the opposite of destroyed.

First, take a breath. The word "destroyed" carries immense weight, and the fact you're using it means you're in real pain. Whether someone said this to you, or you're saying it about yourself, let's pause the self-blame and the shame spiral.